10 Signs Your Relationship Is Definitely Going To Crash
If science has taught us anything, it is that we can predict the future based on given factors. The same is true of the life span of a relationship. Knowing if your relationship will work or not will save you time and effort. Nobody likes investing in something that will crash, right? Here are ten indicators you should look out for.
1. Your partner wants to change you: If your partner is unhappy about who you are and wants to change you, you should know that is a time bomb waiting to explode. It’s only a matter of time before your partner gets tired of trying or you start resenting him because nobody has ever changed anybody. People change because they want to and not because people make a demand of them. Come to think of it; if he wants to change you, then who did he fell in love with in the first place? That should make you think.
2. Your partner is extremely jealous: When your partner is jealous, it is a good thing because it shows you are loved. But when your partner gets jealous to the point of trying to keep you from the opposite sex or monitoring all your movements and phone calls, it is a bad thing. It is only a matter of time before you start feeling caged.
3. Your partner talks about love but does not show you love: If your partner is not showing you love as you need but tells you he/she loves you, your relationship will soon crash. Love is beyond a statement; it has to find expression in his actions. Your partner should be willing to do things with you and for your relationship to grow and vice versa.
4. One partner is struggling to make it work: Relationships is a “two-person thingy”. It requires the mutual affection and devotion of both parties. In a case where only one person is trying to make the relationship work, the relationship is headed for a crash. One person cannot steady the relationship. If you are the only person doing the calling, inquiring about your partner’s welfare and doing the visiting, it could be that you are pushing things all by yourself. It is only a matter of time before the person dumps you truly or you get tired of it.
5. Your partner is indecisive: If your partner cannot decide if he or she wants to have a future with you, it is a red flag. It can get pretty frustrating if you on the other hand want to plan ahead with your relationship in view. It could be that your partner is just trying to play safe and wait for someone better than you before leaving you. If someone loves you, that person immediately sees a future with you. You will always sneak in to factors to put under consideration when they are making future plans.
6. Your loved ones do not support your relationship: By loved ones, I mean your family and friends. If these two sets of people are not in support of your relationship, then there could be a problem. If one of the two support the relationship, there is hope of working things out. But if you find yourself constantly having to defend your partner before these two groups, you should give the relationship a second thought. It may eventually succeed, but the odds are high.
7. You can't point to how you have influenced each other: A relationship is like a partnership that should get better results because two are greater than one. If you cannot point to how your partner's presence has influenced your life positively and vice-versa, then maybe the two of you are not meant for each other. Your partner should be your greatest cheerleader that inspires in you the desire and courage to be better.
8. Your partner talks you down: Whether it is in public or private, if your partner makes remarks that you find demeaning and repeats it over and over again, it is a sign that you are not respected. And if your partner does not respect you, be assured that it is a bad omen of the impending crash of the relationship, except you want to deliberately subject yourself to oral abuse.
9. Your partner thinks you’re lucky to have them: When your partner thinks you are lucky to be in a relationship with them and not the other way round, it means your partner thinks you are beneath him or her. That is a condescending statement and a sheer display of arrogance that you should not overlook. Your partner may have sterling qualities but there also have to be something he/she sees that complements his/her and convinces him/her that your presence in their life is better than your absence.
10. You are not happy in the relationship: Are you happy? Like a saying goes, “If you are always crying in your relationship, you should ask yourself if you are dating an onion or a human being”. Staying in such a relationship will kill your excitement about life and about things that matter to you. You deserve to be happy. If you are not, love yourself and walk away.
1. Your partner wants to change you: If your partner is unhappy about who you are and wants to change you, you should know that is a time bomb waiting to explode. It’s only a matter of time before your partner gets tired of trying or you start resenting him because nobody has ever changed anybody. People change because they want to and not because people make a demand of them. Come to think of it; if he wants to change you, then who did he fell in love with in the first place? That should make you think.
2. Your partner is extremely jealous: When your partner is jealous, it is a good thing because it shows you are loved. But when your partner gets jealous to the point of trying to keep you from the opposite sex or monitoring all your movements and phone calls, it is a bad thing. It is only a matter of time before you start feeling caged.
3. Your partner talks about love but does not show you love: If your partner is not showing you love as you need but tells you he/she loves you, your relationship will soon crash. Love is beyond a statement; it has to find expression in his actions. Your partner should be willing to do things with you and for your relationship to grow and vice versa.
4. One partner is struggling to make it work: Relationships is a “two-person thingy”. It requires the mutual affection and devotion of both parties. In a case where only one person is trying to make the relationship work, the relationship is headed for a crash. One person cannot steady the relationship. If you are the only person doing the calling, inquiring about your partner’s welfare and doing the visiting, it could be that you are pushing things all by yourself. It is only a matter of time before the person dumps you truly or you get tired of it.
5. Your partner is indecisive: If your partner cannot decide if he or she wants to have a future with you, it is a red flag. It can get pretty frustrating if you on the other hand want to plan ahead with your relationship in view. It could be that your partner is just trying to play safe and wait for someone better than you before leaving you. If someone loves you, that person immediately sees a future with you. You will always sneak in to factors to put under consideration when they are making future plans.
6. Your loved ones do not support your relationship: By loved ones, I mean your family and friends. If these two sets of people are not in support of your relationship, then there could be a problem. If one of the two support the relationship, there is hope of working things out. But if you find yourself constantly having to defend your partner before these two groups, you should give the relationship a second thought. It may eventually succeed, but the odds are high.
7. You can't point to how you have influenced each other: A relationship is like a partnership that should get better results because two are greater than one. If you cannot point to how your partner's presence has influenced your life positively and vice-versa, then maybe the two of you are not meant for each other. Your partner should be your greatest cheerleader that inspires in you the desire and courage to be better.
8. Your partner talks you down: Whether it is in public or private, if your partner makes remarks that you find demeaning and repeats it over and over again, it is a sign that you are not respected. And if your partner does not respect you, be assured that it is a bad omen of the impending crash of the relationship, except you want to deliberately subject yourself to oral abuse.
9. Your partner thinks you’re lucky to have them: When your partner thinks you are lucky to be in a relationship with them and not the other way round, it means your partner thinks you are beneath him or her. That is a condescending statement and a sheer display of arrogance that you should not overlook. Your partner may have sterling qualities but there also have to be something he/she sees that complements his/her and convinces him/her that your presence in their life is better than your absence.
10. You are not happy in the relationship: Are you happy? Like a saying goes, “If you are always crying in your relationship, you should ask yourself if you are dating an onion or a human being”. Staying in such a relationship will kill your excitement about life and about things that matter to you. You deserve to be happy. If you are not, love yourself and walk away.
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